Are You Married But Not Connecting Physically? Learn 10 Ways To Connect!
Are you married but sleeping separately or are you not connecting physically with your spouse? Physical intimacy is a crucial aspect of any romantic relationship and reconnecting with your spouse in this way can significantly improve your overall bond. Here are 10 ways to reconnect physically and enhance your relationship from California Licensed Marriage Counselor Ilissa Banhazl, M.S. MFT.
As in life, relationships have their ups and downs and for many different reasons. Sometimes partners become distant and communication slows.
If the intimacy in your relationship is waning or gone, then physical contact may be the first step towards feeling close again.
“Physical affection can bring you back together. It’s probably the last thing you feel like doing right now but it works. You have to make an effort! Physical touch can bring you back, so you feel close and safe enough to start having open communication again.” –Ilissa Banhazl, M.S., MFT
Read on for 10 ways to reconnect with your partner:
- Communicate Openly: Start by having an honest conversation with your spouse about your physical connection. Understanding each other’s needs and concerns is the first step toward rekindling intimacy.
- Prioritize Time Together: Set aside dedicated time for each other. Whether it’s a date night or a simple walk together, spending quality time can strengthen your physical connection.
- Show Affection Daily: Small gestures of affection, like holding hands, an encouraging pat on the back, hugging or a smile or a kiss goodbye can make a big difference in maintaining a physical bond.
- Explore New Activities: Try new activities together that require physical touch, such as dancing, yoga or couples’ massage classes. These can help you reconnect in a fun and engaging way.
- Be Present: When you’re together, focus on being present. Put away distractions like phones and fully engage with your spouse to build a deeper connection.
- Mindful Touching & Physical Touch Beyond Sex: Remember that physical intimacy isn’t just about sex. Simple touches, like a massage, a kiss, or sitting close while watching TV can enhance your bond. (And of course, sex can absolutely improve your connection!)
- Practice Mindfulness: Engage in mindfulness exercises together such as deep breathing or meditation. These practices can reduce stress and increase your sense of connection.
- Create a Comfortable Space: Make your home a comfortable and inviting place for intimacy. Soft lighting, soothing music along with a cozy environment can set the mood for physical connection.
- Seek Professional Help: If you’re struggling to reconnect physically, consider seeking guidance from a professional couples therapist like Ilissa Banhazl, M.S. MFT. She can provide personalized strategies to help you and your spouse rebuild your physical intimacy.
- Stay Positive and Patient: Reconnecting physically takes time and effort. Stay positive, be patient with each other and celebrate small successes along the way.
By incorporating these strategies, you can work towards a more physically connected and fulfilling relationship.
Sometimes these non-verbal behaviors break down barriers and make partners feel safe enough to share some genuine feelings and thoughts. When we can’t find the words, a hug or a cuddle can say a lot and we can find our way back to one another.
CALIFORNIA ONLINE MARRIAGE & COUPLES COUNSELING | LICENSED THERAPIST ILISSA BANHAZL, M.S., MFT
For improving your communication skills, you may want to try couples counseling! If you need further assistance don’t hesitate to reach out to a licensed professional such as Ilissa Banhazl, M.S. MFT who specializes in helping couples improve their relationships.
