When searching for the partner of your dreams, it’s important to consider several key factors that can guide you towards a healthy and fulfilling relationship.
Glendora, California Licensed Couples Therapist Ilissa Banhazl, MFT shares tips and insights for what you need to consider below:
Self-Understanding and Readiness: Before seeking a partner, it’s crucial to understand yourself. Know your values, goals, and what you want in a relationship. In therapy, I emphasize the importance of being emotionally ready and aware of your own needs and boundaries.
Take good care of yourself mentally and physically. Taking care of yourself, along with getting out with friends and family and enjoying your life can help keep you balanced and more emotionally ready to enter into a new relationship.
Compatibility: Look for compatibility in core values, lifestyle preferences, and long-term goals. This doesn’t mean you have to be identical, but sharing fundamental values and beliefs can provide a strong foundation.
Communication Skills: Learn how to be a good listener and an even better communicator. Effective communication is key to a successful relationship. In my experience, I’ve found couples who communicate openly and honestly are more likely to resolve conflicts and build deeper connections.
Emotional Intelligence: Being able to understand and manage your emotions, as well as empathize with your partner’s feelings, is essential for a healthy relationship.
Respect and Trust: Mutual respect and trust are foundational to any lasting relationship. Ensure that your potential partner values and respects you as an individual.
Dealing with Past Baggage: It’s important to address any past relationship issues or personal traumas. This will help you enter a new relationship with a clean slate and avoid projecting past experiences onto your new partner.
Learn how to be alone without being lonely and develop your own interests and hobbies. While having some common interests can strengthen your bond and provide enjoyable shared experiences, having your own interests and hobbies will help you become a more complete and happy person on your own and that kind of positive energy attracts people to you.
By considering these factors and seeking guidance from professional couples therapists, you can approach your search for the right partner with clarity and confidence. Remember, a healthy relationship is built on mutual understanding, respect, and a shared vision for the future.
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ILISSA BANHAZL, MFT
Licensed California Couples Therapist
